My Mum, Violet Schindlmayr, sadly passed away on 27 February 2001.
I have recently written a little around my feelings surrounding her passing, but below is a transcript of my eulogy to her. My first ever public speech, at 21.
Eulogy to Mum
Sometimes our deepest feelings are the hardest to express. However, today is a day to remember Mum, and also recall those feelings we will always associate with her.
I thought I’d start with a sort of précis of Mum’s life.
She was born on 1st May ….. 19 wait, many of you will know, with Mum, that this particular detail is a well-kept secret. I remember a quote by Oscar Wilde that Mum was particularly fond of.
“One should never trust a woman who tells her real age. If she tells that, she’ll tell anything”
Going back to mum’s life on earth, many of you know that mum could have easily written a few books, and they would all have guaranteed a laugh and a cry.
It is difficult for me to present her life briefly, so I won’t.
But I will say that Mum was a great example to everyone. She was a beautiful woman, who was strong, funny, intelligent, creative, loving to many and above all a fantastic (the best) mother and a companion to me. I could wish for no more.
I know for certain that all Mum has taught and passed on to me, will never be forgotten or lost throughout my life.
As I mentioned before, Mum had a creative aspect that she mainly kept to herself. She loved poetry and writing.
Something I found she had was a Serenity Prayer, which if think was very true to her.
“God grant me the serenity,
To accept the things
I cannot change,
The courage to change the things i can,
And the wisdom to know the difference”
Mum will be painfully missed by me and all that knew her. We will all remember her in our own manner, stories, events and in many other ways, I’m sure.
I believe it is my duty and you as friends to not forget these memories and from time to time share them with others.
Mum is at peace now, and will always be around when we need her.
I’d like to end this eulogy with a poem.
Your time on earth seemed all too brief,
Because i wanted you in my life for ever,
And although i really miss you,
In my heart i know you are at peace.
Still, countless times throughout the day,
I find myself remembering you.
Could we ever forget your sparkling eyes,
Or the way you brightened each day,
Or your smile, which is etched in our memories,
So you’re never far away?
Could we ever forget those priceless moments?
The answer, of course, is never.
I’m thankful for the times we shared
And the priceless memories too;
For those memories are a comfort now when I lovingly –
I love you Mum
Finally, below is a poem my Mum once wrote, it is here to be remembered.
Care for, kiss and hug those you love,
Laugh when things are funny,
Don’t take anything too seriously,
And take time to notice how wonderful things are,
Even in the depths of your problems,
And have courage in the face of adversity.
Above all, see how precious life is and enjoy it to the full.
Live each day as if it were your last.